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UP: Aging and the Spirit of Adventure

Last weekend I took the time to re-watch UP. It certainly stands up to the test of time. Nice visuals, quirky animals: classic Disney/Pixar stuff.

I’ve been reflecting on the message that UP presents and I wanted to analyze some of its elements and share that with you.

There will be spoilers… but the movie came out in 2009 so I think the no spoilers courtesy buffer has long since come down.

UP is a story about and old grump rediscovering his spirit of adventure. In other words, his sense of wonder.

In the beginning of the film we get the very famous sequence of Carl Fredricksen’s life as he grows up with his wife, Ellie. It leads up to where he’s an old man, Ellie has died, the vibrant colors of the opening sequence are replaced with dulled colors and a crotchety Fredricksen.

There is a corporation tearing down everything surrounding his house in order to build skyscrapers.

The image of his house is in direct opposition to the buildings around him. Where they are grey, bland buildings, his house appears to be from another era where form was also a consideration in building homes and buildings, not just function. It’s also contrasted by the colorful paint Fredricksen and his wife put on it when they were newlyweds.

A man wearing a black suit and a white shirt is trying to gain control of Fredrickson’s property and thus be able to completely fill the street with skyscrapers. The man also has pale, dull skin which I thought was a nice touch. It emphasizes his soulless, empty nature beyond that of his bland clothing.

After an incident involving Fredricksen and one of the construction workers, Fredricksen loses a court case and is ordered to move into a retirement home. He defies this by turning his house into an airship using thousands of balloons and flying away. Thus beginning his journey to Paradise Falls. The wondrous place that he and his late wife had always dreamed of living.

UP is a story about loss as much as it is discovery and rebirth. Throughout most of the movie, Fredricksen is totally focused on getting his house to Paradise Falls; only begrudgingly going along with what his companions want to do. It’s understandable, the house represents his late wife and the dreams they shared together.

Fredricksen’s companions are a husky boy scout named Russell, a colorful, legendary bird named Kevin, and an endearing, talking golden retriever named Dug.

Eventually, he comes across his childhood hero, Charles Muntz. Decades ago, he vowed to not return from Paradise Falls until he’s captured a certain legendary bird alive.

Fredricksen’s childhood hero turns out to be deranged. Having killed anyone who wanders into Paradise Falls over the years believing them to secretly be out to get the bird before he can.

Fredricksen ends up battling Muntz and his dogs in order to protect himself and his new friends. He has to let go of his house in the process. The thing he held onto so dearly up to that point.

Fredricksen and friends win the battle. Then they use Muntz’s blimp, the aptly named, Spirit of Adventure, to return home.

Taking ownership of the blimp of that name was both symbolic and physical for Fredricksen. Where once he was a disenchanted, grumpy old man who clung to distant memories, he is now fulfilled and has become a father figure to Russell. He also owns a blimp and a lot of dogs. Sounds like a dream if you ask me.

In my reflections of the movie, I noticed a sad truth that UP presents to us. More often than we like to admit, we become like Mr. Fredricksen before he goes on The Hero’s Journey as we age: grumpy, close-minded, and tired of life.

Life is tough. By default, it’s the toughest thing we will ever do. It can be easy to let it beat you down. There’s a reason the stereotype/trope of a grumpy old man exists.

I’m by no means old, I’ll only be turning 24 this year. Even so, I feel massively more intelligent and wise than I was just two years ago. Go back four, six, eight years ago and that gap increases more. While I wouldn’t trade what I know now for the blissful ignorance I once had, I do sometimes catch myself being pessimistic and embittered. At least more than I once was.

I’m glad I’m able to notice this behavior so I can correct it. Any of you youngsters that might be reading this, I hope you do too. That goes for the oldsters too.

You can be like Fredrickson, grumpy, smacking the alarm clock in the morning, and clinging to his past. Not that memories and the knowledge you glean from them are a bad thing, of course.

Or you can be like Fredrickson, uprooting his house with a giant mass of balloons and going on an adventure he’s dreamed about his whole life, only to find a new one and regain his spirit of adventure.

You don’t have to try and uproot your house with balloons. There are certainly easier ways to do it.

One way that’s been working for me on my own temperamental vigil is simply spending less time looking at the news. I don’t do it to such a degree where my head is in the sand; but I also don’t do it to a degree where I’m bogged down and annoyed by the bad in the world and the talking heads that make it worse.

The balloon thing won’t work anyway.

Nonetheless, I believe the message of UP is to maintain or rediscover your spirit of adventure. Life is hard no matter what. You might as well do it with a smile on your face and a talking dog by your side.

Don’t be a Scrooge. Be a Fredricksen.

Thank you for reading.

P.S. In Scrooge’s defense, his story is similar. Going from a cranky old fart to an old fart who’s rediscovered his love of life. But you get the point.

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Five Unsung Heroes of Your Apocalypse Team

Don’t tell me you haven’t thought about it before.

If the world were to end, who would you want on your team? Obviously you’d pick your loved ones. What about people with other skills that would help your ragtag band of survivors, survive? We all tend to think of the obvious: a doctor and/or nurse, a soldier, preferably one who’s a good shot, an outdoorsman, a farmer, a builder, etc.

My time in quarantine made me think about those people and skills that we never think about until suddenly they’re unavailable. Luckily, the world isn’t ending so we don’t have to worry about finding people with these skills to add to the team. Nonetheless, these are people we may consider adding to the group now that we have new insight as the quarantines slowly come to an end:

Weaver/Tailor

Right now, we almost never need a tailor unless it’s for getting our fancy clothes fitted and our textiles are made by machines. What about when we don’t have those machines?

When your clothes inevitably wear from farming, building up your fort to keep zombies out, and fighting off roaming packs of chihuahuas, you’re going to need someone who can make fabrics and craft them into clothes unless you want to strap furs and rags to yourself like some kind of Neanderthal.

For this purpose, I recommend you find someone with the last name Taylor. That will be the easiest way to identify someone with the skills to do those things.

Musician

Or at least someone who can play an instrument.

What have we been doing since the quarantines began? Binging TV shows, watching movies, listening to music, shoveling ice cream down our gullets, things like that. Somebody who can play an instrument could potentially do wonders for your group’s morale.

And if he or she decides to play the indie crap they did before the apocalypse they’ll still do wonders for morale by uniting the rest of you against a common enemy. Win win!

“Play Free Bird or it’s guard duty for you.”

Cobbler

This one goes along the lines of the tailor. Except for your feet.

In the apocalypse world, gone are the days where international companies with a swoosh for a logo can get Vietnamese children to make shoes for you.

Your current pair of Vietnamese shoes will eventually fall apart from the stresses of running from bears, running from alligators, running from other people, running from Canadian geese, and running from roaming packs of chihuahuas.

You’re going to need someone who can make shoes from the raw materials.

For this purpose I suggest you abdu-

Recruit someone with the last name Shumaker or Schumacher.

Barber

Ah, the haircut. So mundane, yet so important. This one may top the list of things that we never think about but desperately desire now that we don’t have access to it.

Having someone who cut hair for a living will help keep us happy and less ugly.

Barber’s of course having no relation to the Barbary pirates; North African pirates who terrorized the Mediterranean and even as far as England for several centuries.

Yes, I’m sure the word Barber has nothing to do with the word Barbary.

Barbers aren’t pirates.

That would be crazy.

I’m sure it’s just a crazy coincidence that those words are spelled suspiciously similar.

Barbers aren’t pirates.

Plus, it’ll be much better than some teenage girl in your settlement going, “Oh, I can cut your hair!”

I’m sure you could, but I’m concerned that I will look like a monk at the end of it, so no thank you.

Teacher

Although it may be a few years out, having someone who’s learned in the ways of education would be immensely helpful for when there are ankle-biters running around.

In this case, I’m referring to ankle-biters the human children. Not ankle-biters the trembling beasts known as Chihuahuas.

For this one, I recommend finding someone with the first name Mr., Ms., or Mrs.

Honorable Mention: Librarian/Archivist

This one receives an honorable mention because, in the end times, I’m sure we wouldn’t be able to specialize as much as we do today so I think a teacher doubling as a librarian would pair nicely; particularly if they’re an English teacher.

Once the necessities are covered and you begin to rebuild, I’m sure it would be quite nice to have someone recording and archiving your group’s history.

And when someone is being too loud while you’re hiding from a roaming band of chihuahuas, you’ll have an expert ‘shusher’ in the group.

Thank you for reading.

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How to Survive the Coronavirus Apocalypse

Amid all the panic, national emergencies, political fearmongering, and theft (external link), I began meditating on the shortsightedness of the people and what this all means.

It made me think of a line from Men in Black. After seeing a shot of the Manhattan skyline, World Trade Center still standing, Agent K (Tommy Lee Jones) is sitting on a bench with the not yet initiated Agent J (Will Smith). Agent J, not understanding why the Men in Black can’t tell people about aliens says:

“Why the big secret? People are smart, they can handle it.”

To which Agent K says, “A person is smart. People are dumb, panicky, dangerous animals and you know it.”

I’m not suggesting that it would’ve been better had the government tried to cover this whole thing up, but what’s happening now is an especially good example of what Agent K said.

A few questions that always come to mind for me in response to the oft silly actions of the populace:

“What are you gonna do when you run out of the toilet paper you hoarded and kept from those who might need it more than you?”

“What are you gonna do with all that extra toilet paper when this whole thing blows over and the shelves are restocked?”

“What are you gonna do with all those useless surgical masks you bought? Are you aware that they’re meant for protecting other people from YOUR germs and not the other way around?”

“What happens when you run out of water bottles?”

I realize most people aren’t interested in self-sufficiency or survival techniques. An even smaller group of people consider themselves preppers.

Fortunately for you, dear reader, I, in my humble glory and infinite wisdom, have always found survival and outdoorsman-y topics interesting. No, I am not a prepper, I just happen to think the stuff is cool.

So, without further ado, here are some tips to survive and rebuild when all is lost, your neighbors have died of unwiped bottoms, and you’ve just ran out of Spam.

For food:

  • If you can get your hands on some seeds, you can grow food. Enough to feed yourself consistently and your fellow band of survivors? Maybe. Gotta have a lot of plants. I also understand that actually watering the plants you buy is the most difficult step in keeping a plant alive. Most of us just can’t bring ourselves to do it. The water pail is five feet away and it would take sixty seconds but we just. Can’t. Do it.
  • Hunting is also a good way to obtain food and some more remote people already tend to rely on such methods. Of course, with no society, this means you’ll have to kill, skin, bleed, and butcher the animal yourself. I believe in you!

For water:

  • Before modern water delivery methods, people used to dig wells, gather from streams with buckets, even collect rain water.
  • Don’t forget to filter and boil if you’re not sure about the sanitation of the water. Alternating layers of sand and charcoal can make an effective water filter.
  • If you have a dehumidifier and electricity, the air will give you free water! Thank you, Mother Nature.

For heat:

  • Hearth.
  • Dog snuggles.

For air conditioning:

  • You’re screwed.
  • Basement.

For fuel:

  • Yeah that’s a tough one considering it comes from deep underground and unless you have access to oil drilling and refining facilities and the required knowledge, I don’t know how you’re gonna manage that one. Even if you go all Mad Max about it, it’s still gonna be a very limited resource.
  • I have heard whispers that the Amish have a way of circumventing the entire fossil fuel thing. Perhaps if you can gain their trust they will impart their secrets unto you.

For butt-wiping:

Hiding in a toilet paper fort is all well and good. Butt what happens when you inevitably run out?

  • * We could always revert to leaves. I personally recommend the Toxicodendron radicans plant. It’s very soft and offers a good amount of surface area with which to clean up your poopies.
  • I suppose you could learn to create your own paper products. I have no idea how to make it from scratch other than that it comes from wood. Experiment! Involve your kids! It’ll be a fun activity for the little ankle-biters. If they don’t want to do it, you can always motivate them by telling them that whoever figures out how to make toilet paper first gets to wipe first. Friendly competition!
  • Your little sister’s favorite shirt.

Of course, I’m being facetious (Some of the tips are genuine. For example, sand and charcoal actually do make a good water filter). You should listen to reasonable advice from people like healthcare professionals and the CDC.

My point is, look how easy it is for people to panic and act selfishly today. Don’t hoard things, it will be useless in the long run. Act reasonably, work together. Learning self-sufficiency and things that campers, hikers, backpackers, and otherwise outdoors-y people already know, would serve you better than cases of water and toilet paper.

Thank you for reading.

*Don’t come crying to me if you actually go wipe your ass with poison ivy.

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We Can’t Get Over Love And We Don’t Want To

Valentine’s day has arrived once again. Such is the nature of the calendar.

I wanted to make a post that was relevant to the holiday this time around and I thought to myself, “What about Valentine’s Day could I write about?”

I could write about how it’s important to love yourself as well as those close to you. About not neglecting your loved ones regardless of what day it is. There are probably a great many of topics and angles I could’ve taken.

But I thought, well, I’m a writer, I like stories, I like reading, and love is one of those themes that permeates almost all of our stories. Maybe almost all of our actions. Maybe almost everything there is. Hopefully almost everything there is.

Some of our oldest stories feature love. The Iliad and The Odyssey by Homer are two VERY old stories that come to mind. The Trojan war was fought over love. Over the love of and for one woman. Odysseus spent ten years trying to get home to his wife.

Those stories both have a great many things going on but certainly, love played a large role in the character’s stories.

William Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet is a tragic love story set in fair Verona. I would argue it’s one of his most famous works and one of the most famous love stories, no, stories in general, that we have. It’s hundreds of years old and we still love it today.

As with Iliad and Odyssey, the stories don’t have to be specifically about love, as Romeo and Juliet is. Movies and books and TV shows often have a love interest for the protagonist despite the story not being centered around their love.

Think of the songs you listen to. How many of them are about love? I personally prefer jazz. Big band stuff like Frank Sinatra and Michael Buble. That genre is particularly filled with love. Nearly every song I hear is about love. Pop music is filled with it, country music is filled with it. You don’t even need lyrics for music to be about love. Classical composers of the past and present convey romantic sentiments in their works.

Why do we feel so compelled by love? We can’t seem to escape it. We spend our lives looking for someone to share it with. And there isn’t much that hurts more than a broken heart.

I could dispassionately tell you that it might be a biological tendency of ours as animals and mortal beings. To pass on our genes is at the base of our nature and is required for our species continued existence. I could dispassionately tell you that there are legal and financial benefits to marriage.

But that wouldn’t be very romantic of me, would it?

We are more than beasts, led around by our instincts alone. We are the only beings on this Earth blessed (and cursed) with higher thought. We are more than legal and financial entities.

Thus, we find ourselves with love. The most powerful force in existence.

Love for your neighbor (Even if they’re annoying. I’m looking at you, Flanders). Love for your significant other or spouse. Love for music, for books, and for food. For your pets. Your pet’s love for you. Love for yourself. For God. God’s love for you. Love for life itself.

Love opens us up to feeling. I don’t just mean feeling love. I mean feeling everything. Sorrow, joy, spite, forgiveness.

Feeling is the essence of what makes us human. We feel because we are. We shouldn’t lose it nor should we want to.

All the pain you’ve felt, all the happiness. The losses, the gains. Those are the things that made you who you are. And I bet you love had a hand in it in some form or another. You worked at your craft and bettered yourself because you love yourself enough to improve your lot in life. You wanted to share those experiences with someone else so you fell in love. It didn’t work out and you experienced a pain so intense that you thought no one else had ever felt before. But they have. And they’ve gone on to do amazing things and they continued to love. And so will you.

Valentine’s Day is undoubtedly a Hallmark Holiday, but there is potential for something more.

The next time you step outside and look up at the pale moon and twinkling stars, consider what it means to you. How many stories of star-crossed lovers have been told under that same sky? How many stories of a true and pure love?

The next time you hear the story of Romeo and Juliet, consider how you will one day be reunited with your love and your family and your pets.

Consider the words of Alfred Lord Tennyson when he said, “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” I remember a time not long ago when I would hear those words and ask, “is it?”

It is.

Regardless of if you are with someone you love tonight or if you find yourself alone, consider what love means to you. Do you push it away, letting yourself grow cold?

Or do you let it into your heart? Do you allow yourself to ply it into your trade and into your life?

We are obsessed with love because it so often defines who we are and what we do. Do not try to escape it.

Thank you for reading.

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An Emerging Trope in Popular Media: Good Dads?

When I think of father figures and men in general in American popular media, I unfortunately tend think of bad fathers and men. Bad meaning incompetent, stupid, useless, absent, or even abusive.

I think of dingus’s like Homer Simpson and Peter Griffin. Of the abusive fathers like Bender’s dad in The Breakfast Club. Of one of the worst dads ever, Anakin Skywalker.

There are a few moments of depth in The Simpsons and Family Guy and I recognize that the shows are comedies. The fact remains that on the whole, Homer Simpson and Peter Griffin are dumb, incompetent, and bad fathers.

I’m taking exception to this because I think those shows are very much tied to American television; The Simpsons being the longest running cartoon ever. Family Guy being another very famous American cartoon and with an almost identical family makeup to The Simpsons.

For the longest time, I did not see any good examples of dads to counter the image of the lazy, incompetent, absent, or abusive father. Growing up, and even now, the only people I remember having to look up to as good male figures in popular media were superheroes. Superheroes are generally good role models. How many of them are fathers? Even if they are, how much does that actually have to do with the story?

I was fortunate enough to have a good, real life dad to look up to; but what about the kids who didn’t? What about the young men who are considering being a father in the future?

What if their father worked long hours or traveled for work and he wasn’t very present in the child’s life? What if he wasn’t there at all? What about the children and young men who don’t have any strong fathers to look up to?

And if I haven’t been clear enough yet: A bumbling idiot cartoon who annoys his wife and children with his stupidity is not a quality role model.

I was happily surprised when I saw strong men taking on the role of father in not just one, but at least three modern mediums.

Today I’ll be looking at one video game and two TV shows: Sony’s God of War (2018), Disney’s The Mandalorian, and Netflix’s The Witcher.

You may have heard of some, or all of these. The Mandalorian took the world by storm with a story that pleased fans who were disappointed with the new Star Wars movies and brought us the cuteness of one Baby Yoda. Then The Witcher did the same thing.

For those of you not involved in the video game world, God of War made similar waves in that realm. Quickly becoming one of the PlayStation 4’s most acclaimed and best selling games.

I’ll try to keep the details to a minimum but be aware, there will be some spoilers ahead.

In The Mandalorian, a ruthless bounty hunter from a legendary group of warriors (the mandalorians) takes on the responsibility of keeping Baby Yoda safe from the remnants of the Empire.

In The Witcher, Geralt of Rivia, a monster hunter called a Witcher, is charged with protecting Cirilla (or Ciri for short). A girl with mysterious powers who is being hunted by those who wish to exploit her power for their benefit.

In God of War, Kratos, the titular god of war, goes on a quest with his son Atreus to spread the ashes of Atreus’s mother per her final wish. Along the way, they are hunted by the Norse god Baldur who was ordered to do so by Odin.

None of these titles have completed their story so we’re not sure how they will end, however; they all share this common theme of a man taking on his role of protecting their ward or child.

All of these father figures have a questionable and violent past. The Mandalorian is a bounty hunter and it’s implied not all of his bounties came back alive. Geralt is a monster hunter who has also killed several people (more or less out of necessity). Kratos? Well, let’s just say he may or may not have wiped out the entire Greek pantheon including Zeus, his father.

Not exactly who you’d expect to make good fathers but given the circumstances, their abilities are probably exactly what’s necessary to survive.

In that sense, these are also redemption stories. These men of questionable pasts have turned the page and are now committed to protecting and raising their children/wards.

Obviously in the real world we can’t go around bounty hunting and killing monsters and Greek gods. Although I’m not a father myself, I don’t think anyone will rebuke me when I recommend a more stable, less violent life to raise a child in the real world.

These father figures are almost direct opposites of those I mentioned before. These men are very capable and pragmatic. They do what they must instead of what they want. They’re interested in the well being of those in their care.

It’s refreshing to see men in popular media that are interested in doing good and they are capable of doing so. A heart of gold is useless if you don’t have the ability to do anything with it.

I believe these characters send a much more positive message to young men (and women). Be competent at what you do. It’s never too late to change course. Take your responsibilities seriously.

They’re by no means perfect but these guys are doing their best. Just like us. Maybe that’s why we find their stories so compelling.

Thank you for reading.

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Indifference Brought Down the Castle

I recently discovered an old blog-style piece I had written before this website even existed. It’s a welcome remnant of the past. Particularly one that was thought lost to previous computer crashes.

Needless to say, I now back everything up with redundancies.

Without further ado, the piece that survived the calamity:

At least a year before writing this, I had written down a vague story idea in one of my notebooks:

“Something that used to be great, but fell apart because of indifference/negligence. The saddest thing is indifference.”

At the time, it was just a reflective thought. I had no idea how to turn it into a story. Now, I’ve realized what those words mean.

I decided to put it in terms of a fairy tale.

This is the story of the castle that fell apart:

Once upon a time, there was a grand castle. In this castle lived the fairest king and queen, the most beautiful princesses, the most handsome princes, and the most noble and chivalrous knights the land had ever known. The people adored them. They were gentle and attentive.

No, this castle won’t be taken down by an enemy army, or a natural disaster. This castle will be destroyed by indifference.

Over time, the king got complacent. He was comfortable where he was and eventually he forgot what it took to build up his kingdom; or where it could go in the future. The queen got bored. She tired of the work involved in maintaining the kingdom. To her, there was no point.

The princesses and princes stopped caring for themselves. They ate and drank more at feasts. They didn’t bother to improve their skills or knowledge.

The knights got lazy at their posts. They let their weapons and armor rust.

The people lost respect for those in the castle. They were not the paragons of royalty that the people once knew.

The walls started to crumble. Feasts became an obligation instead of a celebration. The residents started to leave. Eventually, everyone had left in their own separate, defeated directions.

The all too unfortunate, end.

Why do I think this kind of ending is worse than one where they die in some blaze of glory or at least a tragic accident?

Because it’s their fault. Instead of being remembered for when the kingdom was great, they’ll be remembered for their failures; how they were at the end.

All those involved will be left wondering what went wrong. It might be hard for them to identify those things and they’ll be stuck in an endless cycle of “what-ifs?” What if I had done this differently? What if I hadn’t done that? What if I said this? What if I didn’t say that?

Posing this idea as a fairy tale helped me to understand what I meant by, “Indifference is the saddest thing.”

Is your castle suffering from indifference or apathy? Your familial relationships? Your professional life? Your health goals? Your romantic relationships?

Can your castle be restored to it’s former glory? If it can, do it with all your heart and your sincerity.

Maybe you already walked away from the castle because you thought it was done for. Thinking back, was it? Can you return and restore the castle? There are plenty of real life examples of castles being rebuilt after being brought to ruin. Although I admit rebuilding a physical castle is much simpler than rebuilding a relationship or a life.

When you have rebuilt the castle, don’t forget what it took this time.

Finally, if it is well and truly ruined, maybe you can build a new one. Just remember the first castle and the lessons you learned from it.

Thank you for reading.

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Don’t Give Up on Your Resolution

So, you completed another year around the sun. I suppose a congratulations is in order.

Did you make a New Year’s resolution this year? What was it? Will you follow through?

Unfortunately, we usually don’t. The stereotype that people buy a gym membership just to stop going after two weeks is all too true.

Why is it that it’s so hard for us to stick to our resolutions and fail to build these new habits or whatever you may have resolved to do? It’s not like we don’t want to exercise more or read more or spend less time on our phone.

I’ve written before about the fickle nature of motivation and a way to combat it. Today, I wanted to shift towards a different tactic: Limiting enablers.

Motivation is fickle, discipline is better, but we’re surrounded by distractions and options every moment of the day. We have the internet in our pocket and junk food in the fridge.

When you’re going about your New Year’s duties, it may help to limit your access to things that would get you off track.

For example, when I’m trying to read, I often leave my phone in the other room because when it’s right in my pocket or beside me, I have a hard time focusing in on the book.

When I’ve decided to put down the queso dip, I simply don’t buy junk food when I grocery shop. That way, when I go fridge-diving, the only options available are the healthy ones.

The hardest thing about starting a new habit or doing something different is just that, starting. It’s easier to scroll mindlessly online than it is to read pages of text; even though it might eat up more time than reading a chapter or two. It’s easier to open a bag of chips than to wash carrots; even though it only takes a minute.

Mind you, I fail miserably at this sometimes despite me preaching to you about it. Regardless, the most important thing for us is to keep trying. I’m not telling you anything new by saying it doesn’t matter how many times you fall down as long as you keep getting back up. One day, you’ll win.

Your new resolution doesn’t have to be something life changing. In fact, sometimes it’s better to start small. The big things can seem too big if we’re not ready and then we don’t even bother. You wouldn’t try running a marathon without building up to it so why try to change something big overnight?

Even if you’re still working on it December 31st this year, keep working on it.

My New Year’s resolution?

Walk the dog more often because she deserves it.

Thank you for reading.

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Can You Do It?

In my forays into the internet and even the dreaded, horrifying, real life, I sometimes stumble across posts and pictures and things people have scrawled on various mediums saying something along the lines of, “You can do it!” Or, “Never give up!”

These are worthwhile encouragements and certainly better than the opposite. But I then I hear the question in my head, Can I? Can you?

Our goals and aspirations can seem difficult or even impossible. To use myself as an example, my dream career of being a full-time writer sometimes feels like just that, a dream.

When we’re faced with impossible tasks or odds, what do we sometimes do? Give up. Before we even try. If it’s impossible then why even bother?

But if we look back to our great teacher, History, we’ll see time and time again of people doing the impossible.

Beethoven famously wrote amazing pieces while being mostly, and eventually, completely, deaf. Jonas Salk invented a vaccine for Polio. Sir Edmund Hillary and Tenzing Norgay were the first to reach the peak of Mount Everest.

As we can see, the impossible is not always impossible. So why do we struggle with our motivation to do things that we know we are capable of?

It may be very simple, it is easier to take the easy way. But you and I both know that’s not what we want for ourselves nor is it the noble path in life.

We often say, “I want to,” or, “It would be nice if…”

What if we started to tell ourselves that we had to? To use myself as an example again, I could say: I have to write and therefore pursue my dream of being a full-time writer.

Perhaps that’s how Sir Hillary and Norgay felt, they had to reach the peak of Mount Everest. Not that they just wanted to.

Want implies you can do without. A need is something you have to do or have to have.

C.S. Lewis once said in a talk he gave to BBC, “It is wonderful what you can do when you have to.”

Can you do it?

You have to.

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“OK, Boomer.” – Are We Becoming Less Civil?

One of the more recent catchphrases of young people, “OK, Boomer,” meant to dismiss and generally shame an older person and what they have to say, although somewhat focused on a specific group, got me thinking about the broader state of our society in terms of how we interact.

The general context and meaning behind this phrase, from what I gather, is that old people are out of touch, or ignorant of current events and sentiments.

That is certainly not a new phenomenon. The elderly people that young people are bashing today could very well have been the hippies of the 1960s that bashed and rebelled against their parents and grandparents. And then those parents and grandparents could have been the young people of the 1920s who rebelled against their own elders. Point being, it is nothing new for the young to be upset with the old and vice versa.

Unoriginality aside, I find the insult, “OK, Boomer,” to be indicative of what’s happening to us as a whole. We’re becoming less civil.

Of course, respect is earned and it goes both ways, but why has disrespect now become the default? If someone has to earn your respect, wouldn’t the same have to be said for earning your disrespect?

We have started rejecting rational debate and conversations in favor of, well, poop flinging. That’s the best way I can describe it.

If we have a disagreement with someone we almost instantly resort to dismissal tactics such as, “OK, Boomer.” We also resort to other forms of name calling where we erroneously label someone in an effort to destroy their credibility.

It doesn’t even stop with the words. “Cancel culture,” is a plague on our civility as well. That is, the new, largely internet-fueled, phenomenon that boils down to: if someone does something wrong, they immediately deserve to have their social media accounts taken down and their voice silenced. If they own a business, their profits deserve to be taken away, or at the very least stopped.

That’s not very civil. That’s mob rule. And it often happens before all the information is revealed. Sometimes, when the truth comes out, it just so happens they didn’t do anything wrong at all Or if they did, it was minor and they can apologize and make amends. What if their wrongdoing is up to interpretation? Where some think they’re wrong, others think they aren’t? Unfortunately for the person in question, the damage is usually already done.

I’m not defending those who have actually done wrong, of course. But I do want to pose the question, is it right for us to act on impulse in such a way?

Is it right for us to dismiss our elders simply because we have a disagreement? I don’t think so.

Is it right to, “Cancel,” someone because they might have done one thing wrong? Did they even do anything wrong? If they did, was it bad enough for them to deserve such strong backlash?

Be civil. Don’t disrespect someone you don’t know. Review the facts impartially. Think before you act.

Thank you for reading.

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The Wisdom of the Ancients

I’ve always been interested in history. Mainly war history, but philosophy has piqued my interest in the last few years. We’ve been trying to find our purpose in life for thousands of years and I doubt we’ve found the answer.

Nonetheless, I hear certain bits of wisdom today that strike me as not entirely new. Certainly, our lives are much different than they were in the time of Socrates or Marcus Aurelius. Certain things that were part of life back then are now taboo. But what about the way we think about life and how to be good people? I don’t think it’s so different.

Wisdom I hear today is often just a different way of saying things that our ancestors said. That doesn’t necessarily mean plagiarism. Maybe, it means that they had similar thoughts to ours and it has simply remained wise advice after all these years.

I’m particularly interested in Stoicism. The Stoic philosophy is a philosophy that emphasizes, well, being stoic. Accepting your current circumstances for what they are. Not meaning complacency of course, instead meaning not allowing them to make you miserable. They also believe in the use of the mind, logic and reason, over emotional reactions.

Stoic philosophers include the previous mentioned Marcus Aurelius, an emperor of Rome, Epictetus, a Greek philosopher who was born a slave, and Seneca, who had the impossible task of being a tutor to the infamous emperor Nero.

I’ll list a few quotations from our ancient philosophers and then do my best to correlate them to how we think today:

“The opinion of 10,000 men is of no value if none of them know anything about the subject.” – Marcus Aurelius. Sounds pretty applicable today, doesn’t it? Think of all the politicians, activists, and keyboard warriors who weigh in on every subject imaginable despite knowing little to nothing about them.

Here’s one you might recognize and it fits in nicely with the previous quote: “The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” – Socrates. This is among his more famous quotes and it’s still true today. No matter how much you might know about something, there’s still much more for you to learn.

“Let him that would move the world, first move himself.” – Socrates. You’ve heard the idea that if you want to change the world, start by making your bed, right? Looks like Socrates figured that out 2500 years ago.

“It takes more than just a good looking body. You’ve got to have the heart and soul to go with it.” -Epictetus. Today we sometimes say that there’s more to attraction than the external and I think most of us would agree. In my personal findings, although there are of course exceptions, the more someone is focused on their outward image, the less substance there is on the inside.

“Do not be wise in words – be wise in deeds.” -Marcus Aurelius. Pretty straightforward correlation here. How many times have you heard that actions speak louder than words?

“We should not, like sheep, follow the herd of creatures in front of us, making our way where others go, not where we ought to go.” – Seneca. I was always told growing up, “be a leader, not a follower.”

I could go on and on, but I encourage you to read quotes from these philosophers on your own as well as perhaps finding others to learn from.

I carry a coin in my pocket (when I remember to put it in my pocket) that reads, “Memento Mori,” on one side, and then a fragment of a Marcus Aurelius quote on the other, “You could leave right now.” As in leave this world. The other half of the quote being, “Let that determine what you do and say and think.”

Memento Mori is an old Roman phrase that essentially means, remember that you are mortal. Or, remember that you will die. It’s not some doom and gloom prophecy meant to make you despair. We know from the moment we’re old enough to understand death that we are all fated to die. So, make the most of the present. Worded how we might hear this today, live life to the fullest.

What do you contemplate in order to live properly and guide yourself? What philosophies have had an impact on you? How do you act upon the virtues and ethics of goodness?

Thank you for reading.